Being Versus Doing

We have all heard that we should "do" less and be more." Or something or other along those terms. However, how does one accomplish what needs to get done on a daily basis when there is life to live - jobs, family, exercise, social obligations and friends - and still be?

Until recently did I not fully comprehend this concept. It was the end of an amazing family trip out west and we had arrived at our final destination in Las Vegas. My niece came with me to my room to check it out. All I saw was this bench at the end of the bed that was half filled with pillows and all I wanted to do was to fall back on the bed into the soft and luxurious pillows. So that is exactly what we did. Not once, but about 5 times. We recorded each and everyone of them and one was posted to the group chat on WhatsApp. Each family - either paired off or on their own did the same thing and shared with the rest of us. The best part is that everyone clearly loved falling back onto the bed. It was playful, childlike, fun and joyous all in this simple act. 

I posted the video on Facebook and a friend commented something about "how present I was and how that showed upon my face." That struck a huge chord in me - a good one to self-reflect. "What am I like in my day to day life? Am I so caught up in settling into a new town that I am not allowing myself to enjoy? Am I coming off to people as strung up?" 

So, I took the moment to think about the difference. For the past week, I had been traveling with my family, each day in a new place. We were told when we had to be on the bus, where we would be eating, where we were going. There was no planning involved off the big things. This allowed me to sit back in the comfort of knowing that things were taken care of and enjoy the time with my family. I was being and not doing! The lightbulb when off in my head. For the previous 4 months, being new to a small town I had been constantly thinking of how to get myself known; how do I build a business; who do I connect with; how do I build my business and many more question and to-do lists went through my head on a regular basis. In addition, I felt that I had to accomplish all of this by a certain point.  The stress and pressure was a lot. I was caught up in the doing and getting the check list done. I had been made aware of the difference in my life being in the "doing" versus the "being."

When I came home, I knew I had to try to stay in this frame of mind and not fall back into the doing. It was actually simpler than I thought. Things in my life started to flow. I was allowing myself to get things done, but also seeing that what I had been working on was moving forward. It was really nice to be a part of everything and not feel like I had to get it done right now. There was little stress. It was definitely interesting to see the difference because it is so subtle, yet profound when one can drop into the present moment and not worry about what's to come nor what has happened. This past week, I saw the "doing" Ana start creeping in and it came about because of an event that I had planned. In wanting the even to be full, I found myself back in a familiar place. Gently, I had to remind myself to sit back, do what I can in appropriate timing, and allow things to unfold as they will.